i'm a crazy mom
my son's been invited to try out for competitive soccer. omg.
first thought: my son rocks at sports! bitchin!
second thought: holy shit balls!! how much money is this going to cost me??
third thought: omg. what if he doesn't make the team? how will i make his hurt go away.
fourth thought: of course he'll make it. he's b'dass!!
as you all know (all three of you who even bother to read this drivel), i coached my daughter's soccer team this spring. i am insane sports nut and an even more insane sports mom. i am competitive. i yell at the kids. i yell at the ref. i boo at bad calls. occasionally, (ok, often) i display what most would refer to as poor sportsmanship.
sfw?
winning is IMPORTANT. ask ANYONE who loses EVERYTHING if winning matters. this bullshit we feed kids about how winning isn't important is no good. it totally matters. to get ahead, you have to be the best. the smartest. the most attractive. you have to know the right people. you have to be in the right place at the right time. winning really matters.
having fun matters, too. of course it does. if you win, but you aren't having fun, then that isn't good either. there's definitely a fine line there. but i ask you this: is losing fun? of course not, but you can lose and still have a great time in the process. it's ok to lose. but i think it's wrong to teach kids that losing is every bit as good as winning. that is a big fat huge lie. it opens up the door across the hall from the door labeled "do your best." the door across the hall says "it's ok to screw up as long as you claimed you did your best even when you know you really didn't."
this line of thinking...i like to call it Hey! Mediocrity is Fine by Me! seems to be as common as VISA Accepted Here.
losing gives you a reason to improve. to practice. to go back to school. to fight for what's right. to gain motivation. to get out there and KICK SOME ASS.
i told you i was crazy.
if my son doesn't make this team, i might die. i don't know who wants it worse: me or him. jeez!!
p.s. JESS IS BACK IN DA HOUSE!!!
first thought: my son rocks at sports! bitchin!
second thought: holy shit balls!! how much money is this going to cost me??
third thought: omg. what if he doesn't make the team? how will i make his hurt go away.
fourth thought: of course he'll make it. he's b'dass!!
as you all know (all three of you who even bother to read this drivel), i coached my daughter's soccer team this spring. i am insane sports nut and an even more insane sports mom. i am competitive. i yell at the kids. i yell at the ref. i boo at bad calls. occasionally, (ok, often) i display what most would refer to as poor sportsmanship.
sfw?
winning is IMPORTANT. ask ANYONE who loses EVERYTHING if winning matters. this bullshit we feed kids about how winning isn't important is no good. it totally matters. to get ahead, you have to be the best. the smartest. the most attractive. you have to know the right people. you have to be in the right place at the right time. winning really matters.
having fun matters, too. of course it does. if you win, but you aren't having fun, then that isn't good either. there's definitely a fine line there. but i ask you this: is losing fun? of course not, but you can lose and still have a great time in the process. it's ok to lose. but i think it's wrong to teach kids that losing is every bit as good as winning. that is a big fat huge lie. it opens up the door across the hall from the door labeled "do your best." the door across the hall says "it's ok to screw up as long as you claimed you did your best even when you know you really didn't."
this line of thinking...i like to call it Hey! Mediocrity is Fine by Me! seems to be as common as VISA Accepted Here.
losing gives you a reason to improve. to practice. to go back to school. to fight for what's right. to gain motivation. to get out there and KICK SOME ASS.
i told you i was crazy.
if my son doesn't make this team, i might die. i don't know who wants it worse: me or him. jeez!!
p.s. JESS IS BACK IN DA HOUSE!!!
eloquently composed by jess at 8:23 PM
4 Comments:
Winning is really important. The school my kids go to is specifically not one of those "Everyone is a winner all the time" schools. Deliberately. As in, ON PURPOSE.
Parts shit about this all the time, but I agree with you.
I loathe sports, but allow participation because I think it's good for them. I think as long as you don't bitch at kids when they do fail (Because learning how to fail is also important. You will and you'll have to know how to pick your sorry ass up off the floor)and they try it's fine.
Hey, tell me how your really feel! :D
oh, p.s.
It's not PC to say lose. You just have "delayed success".
yeah... people actually say this.
you are not crazy and i hope [for both of you] that jake makes the team....
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